I've Been Rejected From A Catholic Christian Sorority

[Blind]

Well I feel that you should hang out with them. Get to know them. It sounds like you want to honestly be a part of it. Yeah you can sit around and woo is me all day about how the rejected you, but the bottom line is you didn't get in and its OK. I would hang out with them because that would give you an idea of what they are really like, who knows you may not like them anyway or they may like you and want you in and regret their decision. But it sounds to me like you want to make friends and there could be some good people in that group. The school sounds small but seems like there are many outlets to be in social circles. College is an important time in your life. You make life friends, contacts and learn how life really is. Your going to experience many things in life that don't quite go the way you want them to. Just remember it's how you deal with failure that determines how you achieve success. Here are some sport quotes that help me.[size="+0"]

"I've never known anybody to achieve anything without overcoming adversity."
---Lou Holtz

[/size][size="+0"]"Victory isn't defined by wins or losses. It is defined by effort. If you can truthfully say, 'I did the best I could, I gave everything I had,' then you're a winner."
---Wolfgang Schadler


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[mcts]

Ok, so beware that this comment is probably going to sound insensitive, but I don't mean it that way at ALL. I promise. Really. I love you like pham and I don't mean to hurt your feelings.


Maybe the "you didn't put yourself out there enough" was a nice way of saying "We don't think we'd get along with you in the long term". While maybe they are being mean, maybe they honestly thought it through and realized that you weren't actually a good fit with their group.

I thought of this because of a talk I had with the vocation director at a convent that I was discerning at last weekend. I got along with the sisters really well and I thought that I would get along with them well in the long term (don't get me wrong, I wasn't anywhere NEAR ready to apply there or anything), the vocation director saw some things in me that wouldn't be a good fit for their community. It wasn't like she said "hey, you're a horrible person and I never want to see your face around here again", she was very nice and said that I have a lot to offer, but that she suggested that I focus more on discerning marriage than religious life right now, because she really felt like that might be where God is calling me (I had talked with her on a few occasions, not only last weekend, so she knows me a little bit, at least.)

I do know that you're an amesome girl and I hope that you have a great time at college no matter what group you find yourself with. You certainly deserve it

[Ash Wednesday]

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Well, "reading between the lines", is it possible that they may have made too many demands on you and your time if you had been accepted? You may have been saved from burning yourself out.
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This sounds like a very strong possibility. In the end they may end up demanding and wanting more of your time than you could give, which might be one of the reasons why they didn't take you on. One of my closest friends was in a sorority and she almost flunked out during her first year in school because they were so heavily social and very demanding of one's time. If you need your study time, sorority life can really cut into that easily.

Again I wouldn't regard these girls too bitterly or assume they just wanted to be mean and are un-Christian -- their choice to not take you on might honestly be for the best.

[MithLuin]

I was never part of a sorority; never even considered looking in to Greek life, to be honest. Just wasn't on my radar. But then, I went to a big school, so there were lots and lots of clubs and activities available and I met people that way.

The Christian group I was part of took special pains to welcome [i]everyone[/i] - the whole point was that no one would be turned away, because that is how Jesus would have acted. They went out of their way to be extremely welcoming and make sure everyone felt like they belonged. I thought...that was a very good thing. Sure, the group wasn't perfect, but they got that right.

I have to admit that I don't see off the top of my head what makes this particular social group 'Catholic', but whatev. If you felt like you belonged and were making friends, by all means continue to eat with them and hang out together. If not...just move on.

But you don't have to try to 'avoid' them. They didn't do anything terrible to you; they simply rejected you. Which is no fun at all, and is miserable...but just part of the human experience, unfortunately.