add Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 (edited) it's all good[list][*]in sickness[*]in health[*] for richer[*] for poorer[/list]all of the above can be wonderful! IE: i never believed, growing up that taking care of a spouse in sickness (terminal cancer) could be a joyous thing. i known better now. Edited March 26, 2011 by apparently Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 [quote name='apparently' timestamp='1301101611' post='2223352'] it's all good[list][*]in sickness[*]in health[*] for richer[*] for poorer[/list]all of the above can be wonderful! IE: i never believed, growing up that taking care of a spouse in sickness (terminal cancer) could be a joyous thing. i known better now. [/quote] good for you? and prayers for your spouse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 My husband is having to adjust to the idea that I'm disabled, and am going to get progressively worse rather than better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 [quote name='apparently' timestamp='1301101611' post='2223352'] it's all good[list][*]in sickness[*]in health[*] for richer[*] for poorer[/list]all of the above can be wonderful! IE: i never believed, growing up that taking care of a spouse in sickness (terminal cancer) could be a joyous thing. i known better now. [/quote] Hold that joy close to your heart in the days and weeks to come, and afterward. Isn't it funny how the best parts of love can come at the end. I think it's God's way of easing us into it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
add Posted March 27, 2011 Author Share Posted March 27, 2011 (edited) it is strange this feeling good about something that is so horrible. Good perhaps, isn't the right word, maybe "at peace" or "in acceptance" of it, is a more precise wording. i don't know? i hate to see her suffer, so! death may or may not relive the torment for [s]me[/s] us, our children, our family and our friends, i pray that we will be alright. Edited March 27, 2011 by apparently Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
havok579257 Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 [quote name='apparently' timestamp='1301229673' post='2223719'] it is strange this feeling good about something that is so horrible. Good perhaps, isn't the right word, maybe "at peace" or "in acceptance" of it, is a more precise wording. i don't know? i hate to see her suffer, so! death may or may not relive the torment for [s]me[/s] us, our children, our family and our friends, i pray that we will be alright. [/quote] just remember that there will be no torment for her in heaven as she will be in God's glory. that should help bring peace to you and yoru family. knowing your wife is in the one place we all strive to get to and the one place better than anyother in the existance of the universe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
add Posted March 31, 2011 Author Share Posted March 31, 2011 [b][color="#0000ff"] [/color][/b] [b][color="#0000ff"]“To have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part”[/color][/b] What a profound statement the above is. The “till death us do part” part, has me puzzled. Except for the obvious meaning of when your spouse physical passes on. Does death really change anything? [list][*]Just the thought of finding another partner seams awful icky to me.[/list] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 [quote name='apparently' timestamp='1301561962' post='2225006'] [b][color="#0000ff"] [/color][/b] [b][color="#0000ff"]“To have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part”[/color][/b] What a profound statement the above is. The “till death us do part” part, has me puzzled. Except for the obvious meaning of when your spouse physical passes on. Does death really change anything? [list][*]Just the thought of finding another partner seams awful icky to me.[/list] [/quote] We are not married in heaven. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
add Posted April 1, 2011 Author Share Posted April 1, 2011 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' timestamp='1301589911' post='2225068'] We are not married in heaven. [/quote] in heaven there is no beer, that's why we drink it here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
add Posted April 2, 2011 Author Share Posted April 2, 2011 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' timestamp='1301589911' post='2225068'] We aren't not married out heaven. [/quote] dat's not what I'm talking about Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilllabettt Posted April 3, 2011 Share Posted April 3, 2011 Some who have the vocation of marriage find that they are most alive as people when they have a spouse, and they choose to re-marry. God's will is that they live married life as a help for them to get to Heaven. I know people in 2nd marriages who credit the deceased spouse's heavenly intervention for bringing the new couple together. But it is okay to not understand how they can do that, and reject that for yourself. This is an individual experience. God does not choose everyone to endure the death of a spouse. He gave this call to Our Lady, for example... but many people go through life without experiencing it. How does He choose who will be the survivor in every marriage? For sure there must be some some mysterious divine wisdom at work in that decision. While death ends marriage, it does not break the bond of relationship between husband and wife. That bond is not broken, but transformed. With complete certainty I assure you that the love between you and your spouse will transcend death, remain with you on earth, and bear you up to paradise. This is true whether or not you remarry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
add Posted April 3, 2011 Author Share Posted April 3, 2011 [quote name='Lilllabettt' timestamp='1301790039' post='2225511'] Some who have the vocation of marriage find that they are most alive as people when they have a spouse, and they choose to re-marry. God's will is that they live married life as a help for them to get to Heaven. I know people in 2nd marriages who credit the deceased spouse's heavenly intervention for bringing the new couple together. But it is okay to not understand how they can do that, and reject that for yourself. This is an individual experience. God does not choose everyone to endure the death of a spouse. He gave this call to Our Lady, for example... but many people go through life without experiencing it. How does He choose who will be the survivor in every marriage? For sure there must be some some mysterious divine wisdom at work in that decision. While death ends marriage, it does not break the bond of relationship between husband and wife. That bond is not broken, but transformed. With complete certainty I assure you that the love between you and your spouse will transcend death, remain with you on earth, and bear you up to paradise. This is true whether or not you remarry. [/quote] dat's what I'm talking about Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted April 5, 2011 Share Posted April 5, 2011 [quote name='apparently' timestamp='1301101611' post='2223352'] IE: i never believed, growing up that taking care of a spouse in sickness (terminal cancer) could be a joyous thing. i known better now. [/quote] That's it. God didn't give you the grace to 'handle' the situation until you needed it. God bless you and your spouse! Have you read CS Lewis' book Through the Shadowlands? If not, I highly encourage it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
add Posted April 6, 2011 Author Share Posted April 6, 2011 [quote name='Papist' timestamp='1302012906' post='2226100'] That's it. God didn't give you the grace to 'handle' the situation until you needed it. God bless you and your spouse! Have you read CS Lewis' book Through the Shadowlands? If not, I highly encourage it. [/quote] [b][i][i] [/i][/i][/b] i have not read "Shadowlands" but i did or have enjoyed CS Lewis, in my younger days. the book "til we have faces" was excellent and of course his Space Trilogies too. i will check it out (literally) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted April 6, 2011 Share Posted April 6, 2011 i love the book 'the great divorce' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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