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I was in a LDR with my husband for a very long time. Talk on the phone/skype, send each other cards and care packages. Try to have a certain time frame as far as when you will see each other again in person, that will also help make it tolerable. I know that's apparently not possible for now but it does help to have something to look forward to.

We never did this but someone suggested having a date night and "watching a movie" together -- both have the same movie playing at the same time so you can discuss or IM over it :)

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I'll say a prayer for you. :)
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Thank you very much.

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Catholictothecore

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So yea I'm in one now and we don't know when we'll be able to visit. Any ideas on how we can have "dates" or do you have any tips on how to handle being apart from each other?
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My wife and I were long distance for about 8 months out of our engagement. We all know it can really smell of elderberries sometimes. When you're apart, do as much as you can together, even if it does seem kind of cheesy. Each rent a copy of the same movie. Send each other e-flowers ( www.flowers2send.com is a great one, my choice of only fake flowers). Just remember, at all times, you love each other.

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MarkKurallSchuenemann

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My wife and I were long distance for about 8 months out of our engagement. We all know it can really smell of elderberries sometimes. When you're apart, do as much as you can together, even if it does seem kind of cheesy. Each rent a copy of the same movie. Send each other e-flowers ( www.flowers2send.com is a great one, my choice of only fake flowers). Just remember, at all times, you love each other.
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Thank you.

Not that I know the future, I do know my heart - and when I leave the city I am in to go out and establish my career after graduation - which is next year - than I am going to miss my Robin so much. Thank you tiny for putting this thread up, because I am being just as encouraged that my love and I will make it work when I am working and she is still in college!

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Catholictothecore

The absolutely one thing you must watch for in the still in college/working scenario is the one in college. Classes are soooo important, and when the person you love most isn't nearby, classes can sorta fall by the wayside. I went with 3.4 gpa for 3 years only to flunk out in my senior year and have to face another year and a half at least at a new school. So it may seem tempting at times to let school fall by they wayside, but you musn't let that happen. It is really not fun to think of another year and a half to two years left when you thought you were going to be done.

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MarkKurallSchuenemann

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The absolutely one thing you must watch for in the still in college/working scenario is the one in college. Classes are soooo important, and when the person you love most isn't nearby, classes can sorta fall by the wayside. I went with 3.4 gpa for 3 years only to flunk out in my senior year and have to face another year and a half at least at a new school. So it may seem tempting at times to let school fall by they wayside, but you musn't let that happen. It is really not fun to think of another year and a half to two years left when you thought you were going to be done.
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Thanks for the advice. I recently made that decision, to stay for an extra year - I could graduate this year - but I am going to wait for next year - just to have another year with her close by - so we can ease into the idea that we will have a few years of me going to and from where I am planning to work - which is a train ride away every weekend. I believe in her, she has a great dream and so I think she will be able to continue to pursue it - but I will be right behind her. Thank God for facebook and these technologies, that we can still connect with each other!

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I was in a LDR with my husband for a very long time. Talk on the phone/skype, send each other cards and care packages. Try to have a certain time frame as far as when you will see each other again in person, that will also help make it tolerable. I know that's apparently not possible for now but it does help to have something to look forward to.


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This. The packages were always the highlight of like my month. Especially as it lead to actually meeting up and one had a note to please return a book she was loaning me in person.

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Say the Rosary together, on the phone, webcam, or just at the [u]same time[/u].

Both sit in front of the Blessed Sacrament at the [u]same time[/u].

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