tinytherese Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 So yea I'm in one now and we don't know when we'll be able to visit. Any ideas on how we can have "dates" or do you have any tips on how to handle being apart from each other? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 Talk every single day, on webcam, text when you can't chat. As much contact as possible.It was recommended to me, way back in September, that you meet as soon as possible, and I'm really grateful for that advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 Skype dates are a really good idea. It is good to be able to see each other and hear the other's voice. Also a good idea is watching the same movie at the same time while on the phone or on skype together. This allows you to laugh together and share the same experiences. Ya'll can rent it or watch something on hulu or elsewhere on the internet together. Though, you still have to make sacrifices to be with them though it will take a different form because this time ya'll's time will be mediated through a computer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BG45 Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 I also recommend getting Skype. During my near 3 year long distance relationship, we spoke probably almost on a nightly basis for half of it via Skype. Way cheaper than long distance phone calls and you can see the other person, which means you can have whacky convos where you can pull out lines like "Guess what I got today?" "Uh I dunno" and then pull out a book you've both been discussing. Also make reading the Bible together online a priority. When God's at the center of the relationship, it won't falter. I know my ex and I usually prayed a decade of the rosary together on Skype before signing off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AudreyGrace Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 [quote name='BG45' timestamp='1297370179' post='2211032'] Also make reading the Bible together online a priority. When God's at the center of the relationship, it won't falter. I know my ex and I usually prayed a decade of the rosary together on Skype before signing off. [/quote] this. and if you can't skype or call each other, plan out a time to pray the rosary every day, so you two are praying it at the same time no matter where you are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moosey Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1297327687' post='2210910'] Talk every single day, on webcam, text when you can't chat. As much contact as possible. It was recommended to me, way back in September, that you meet as soon as possible, and I'm really grateful for that advice. [/quote] This. Skype is a Godsend, definitely. Also, as people have stated already, pray with each other often. Nihil and I barely go a few days without starting another novena. Pick a patron saint to pray to. St. Joseph is always willing to help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted February 11, 2011 Author Share Posted February 11, 2011 Yes, we do send each other little notes and have little conversations through text messages, call each other, and skype. We're planning on having a skype date on St. Valentine's Day. We also want to have EWTN watching dates and do google chat or while it's going on. My boyfriend was curious to know what saint's feast day it was on the day we became a couple and since they were really obscure ones that neither of us knew about, we dropped the idea of having one of them being our patron saint. I brought up St. Joseph, what with the connections we had that were linked to him such as his middle name being Joseph, me asking the saint to pray for me during the time before we met when I was feeling discouraged about finding a decent man (who wasn't taken, married, or discerning the priesthood) who would actually return my affections and asking that he ask his adopted son to send me a man when the time was right, and what with us discussing how amesome the saint is as a role model for manhood (apart from Our Lord that is, but guess who served as a role model for Him?). So we decided on him for our patron saint already. He actually found St. Joseph day cards at a Hallmark store run by Catholics. I know that we'll be celebrating his feast day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 St. Joseph's novena is very powerful in my experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeresaBenedicta Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Pray together. On Skype or on the phone. Nothing binds two souls together as much does prayer. LOTH, Rosary... and don't forget spontaneous prayer. That might be awkward at times, but it's important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 We were on the phone practically non-stop. Liked to watch the same movie at the same time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted February 11, 2011 Author Share Posted February 11, 2011 [quote name='TeresaBenedicta' timestamp='1297399337' post='2211254'] Pray together. On Skype or on the phone. Nothing binds two souls together as much does prayer. LOTH, Rosary... and don't forget spontaneous prayer. That might be awkward at times, but it's important. [/quote] We frequently prayed together over the phone before we were even a couple. I had never done that with a friend before. We do spontaneous prayer over the phone and through skype. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 I'd recommend Skype. We talked on the phone every night, and emailed all the time. I made a point of emailing him every morning, even if it was just about mundane things. We read the Bible and prayed together. It can be difficult, but it is very possible. I'll say a prayer for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
let_go_let_God Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Cttc and I would make it a point to call each other every night. Also when you do get to see each other make sure you receive Reconciliation together. We did it quite frequently when we would meet up and it was "convenient" as it would be almost every month. God bless- LGLG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hinter dem Horizont Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 [quote name='tinytherese' timestamp='1297404111' post='2211278'] We frequently prayed together over the phone before we were even a couple. I had never done that with a friend before. We do spontaneous prayer over the phone and through skype. [/quote] That's lovely! I wish I could do that too with someone! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 We have often told people that there is an advantage to a long distance relationship. Because we were apart, we didn't have the "distraction" of being close together. We actually had to talk. We probably spent more time actually talking and getting to know each other in those 6 months, than we would have in a thousand dates. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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