Anastasia13 Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Assuming you are out of school or at least not a full-time undergrad, how much do you go out other than to go to church, work, or a class/Bible study (not including going out with people afterward)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 I don't Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piccoli Fiori JMJ Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 +JMJ Well, I go out with friends or do something with them maybe once a month. Sometimes it's even less... A lot of it has to do with not having a lot of money and having some very wonderful friends that are more than happy to drive me places to hang with friends. I almost never do anything on a whim. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BG45 Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 Once a week or so as a full time grad student. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 [quote name='BG45' timestamp='1297102651' post='2209701'] Once a week or so as a full time grad student. [/quote] Same here and that doesn't include stuff like getting pickup soccer games together and such. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExCorde Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 (edited) It's a concern to me that I don't go out enough. To give you a recent example: I recently got asked for a movie and when I heard they were going for Hereafter I had to tell them exactly why I wasn't going and why I thought they shouldn't either (most of them were even active Catholics). I feel like I need to fight my tendency to be just fine on my own. There's benefits, like feeling completely free to be yourself or having the time to learn a lot of stuff noone you know really cares about. The main difficulty for me is to find something interesting to do with nice people who care about the same things I do. I suppose it's a problem with small talk and "flirting". I just go straight into the deep, serious stuff and a lot of people aren't [i]that[/i] interested or don't get me, which doesn't disturb me much anyway. It's really the difference between doing something random to entertain yourself or to be looking for opportunities to actualize yourself, to do something new and important, to create a bond with someone. I'm just not bored enough with my life to need to go out and "have fun". At this point in my life, I usually find I have better things to do, which lately have been about reading and writing. But I'm still looking for someone to surprise and captivate me, that's for sure... Edited February 7, 2011 by ExCorde Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BG45 Posted February 7, 2011 Share Posted February 7, 2011 [quote name='Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam' timestamp='1297103055' post='2209702'] Same here and that doesn't include stuff like getting pickup soccer games together and such. [/quote] Ditto. I don't really count Bible Study and Adoration as going out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ephrem Augustine Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 Many people I used to know go out a couple times on the weekends, date several people and keep looking like perpetual seekers, indecisive and lost. essentially they are lonely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theresita Nerita Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 Gulp - I go out like 3-4x a week, not counting coworker happy hours. On the other hand, in NYC this is basically hermitude. I agree with Ephrem that attachment to going out ends up in "vanity and vexation of spirit." Definitely. Also, some of my friends who make it a point to meet members of the op. sex every time they go out end up unhappy b/c of the futility of this. But as far as friendships, I've formed a surprising number of really rewarding (tho vexing) friendships beginning from really stupid alcoholic interactions at hipster bars. Just because people may be lost it doesn't mean it's useless to meet them on their own turf. Plus it's good for you - it keeps you from being too phariseeish, feeling great about yourself for sitting home alone with with your Trappist ale and your principles. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted February 9, 2011 Author Share Posted February 9, 2011 (edited) I have my BS, am no longer a full time student, work part-time seeking more employment, and I go out maybe once a month except for a 20 year old friend I go walking with on a regular basis where I will never meet anyone else on those trips. Is that too little? And if you are in your mid to late twenties and live with parents, is it normal to have to plan ahead a couple of days for going out if it affects dinner plans? Edited February 9, 2011 by Light and Truth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeresaBenedicta Posted February 9, 2011 Share Posted February 9, 2011 I graduated last May and have been working full time in a parish since August. Honestly, I'm lucky if I go out once a month. Maybe twice a month if it's a good month. I only have two acquaintances in the area where I live right now. And it's an effort to go out with them (I'm the type of person who enjoy quality time with folks I am close with, not necessarily a lot of time with folks I don't know well). Well. Actually. I go to the local pub with some parishioners on Wednesday nights for dinner. Again... not sure if that counts as 'going out', seeing as these folks are old enough to be my grandparents, and I am often in a teacher role to them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted February 9, 2011 Share Posted February 9, 2011 I'm going to a hockey game next Wednesday! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted February 9, 2011 Author Share Posted February 9, 2011 [quote name='TeresaBenedicta' timestamp='1297230799' post='2210500'] I graduated last May and have been working full time in a parish since August. Honestly, I'm lucky if I go out once a month. Maybe twice a month if it's a good month. I only have two acquaintances in the area where I live right now. And it's an effort to go out with them (I'm the type of person who enjoy quality time with folks I am close with, not necessarily a lot of time with folks I don't know well). Well. Actually. I go to the local pub with some parishioners on Wednesday nights for dinner. Again... not sure if that counts as 'going out', seeing as these folks are old enough to be my grandparents, and I am often in a teacher role to them. [/quote] That makes me feel better. Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catherine Therese Posted February 9, 2011 Share Posted February 9, 2011 I'm at that point where 20-something is about to become 30-something ;-). recently graduated from my masters in theological studies, and i have recently left the fast-paced corporate world of enterprise IT behind me to work part time at the school where i grew up, helping them with their technology side of things. i work 4 days a week. I'm not a big party person, but I DO like one-on-one catchups and catchups in small groups, so fairly often I'll be grabbing coffee or dinner with someone, and even brunch or lunch on days where I'm not working. I also have two sisters-in-law that have recently given birth and so I try to visit one or the other once a week. I'm able to lend a bit of a hand around the house, spend some quality time with my sisters-in-law while my brothers are at work, and also get to bond with my nephew and my niece. I won't be around for most of their childhood as I'll be on the other side of the world to them, so this time is really precious to me!! I try to get to the convent whenever they'll have me there to spend time with the sisters, too! I wanted to sign up for a soccer team this year but couldn't because the season runs from april-september and with entrance at Nashville scheduled for August, I'd be jumping ship right at the business end of the season, leaving them without a goalkeeper for the finals.... so i've had to give up on that idea... so im still looking for a regular way to get a little exercise without letting anyone down. (just going for a walk around the block doesn't cut it, im afraid. i just don't do it!) So all in all, pretty active and social, but thankfully still manage to find a reasonable amount of time to be silent and alone with God. The thing that tends to get neglected in all of this is my housework. I have so much clean laundry waiting to be folded away right now that its ridiculous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted February 9, 2011 Share Posted February 9, 2011 [quote name='Light and Truth' timestamp='1297039887' post='2209503'] Assuming you are out of school or at least not a full-time undergrad, how much do you go out other than to go to church, work, or a class/Bible study (not including going out with people afterward)? [/quote] Recently? A whole lot less than I used to. But it was not uncommon to have only one night per week completely to myself and at home. I was always out with friends or going places I liked, meeting new people. Where are you going with this? [quote name='Theresita Nerita' timestamp='1297180628' post='2210125'] Gulp - I go out like 3-4x a week, not counting coworker happy hours. On the other hand, in NYC this is basically hermitude. I agree with Ephrem that attachment to going out ends up in "vanity and vexation of spirit." Definitely. Also, some of my friends who make it a point to meet members of the op. sex every time they go out end up unhappy b/c of the futility of this. But as far as friendships, I've formed a surprising number of really rewarding (tho vexing) friendships beginning from really stupid alcoholic interactions at hipster bars. Just because people may be lost it doesn't mean it's useless to meet them on their own turf. Plus it's good for you - it keeps you from being too phariseeish, feeling great about yourself for sitting home alone with with your Trappist ale and your principles. [/quote] [quote name='Light and Truth' timestamp='1297229973' post='2210496'] Is that too little? And if you are in your mid to late twenties and live with parents, is it normal to have to plan ahead a couple of days for going out if it affects dinner plans? [/quote] Is it enough for you? Everyone's needs are different. I'm not sure what you mean about dinner plans. Are you asking if it's normal to plan ahead? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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