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I am very much against church or priest "shopping" and believe when you belong to a parish, you should stick with them, because they are your parish family, and the parish is not the priest, but the people who will still be around after a new priest comes. However, what is a person supposed to do when liturgical abuses get so bad that you just want to cry every time you go to Mass and you spend most of Mass being really irritated and leave feeling very bitter, because it was all just so WRONG! And the priest KNOWS that these things are wrong and just doesn't care, and makes a priest that was doing things correctly do them wrong, because he's subordinate to the first priest? Do you still "belong" to the Parish and just go there on occasional Sundays and elsewhere other weekends? Do you just leave, and pray for them from afar? Do you just keep going and spend the entire Mass asking for God to help you keep from getting so frustrated and bitter than you shouldn't even go receive communion? At what point do you say that it's enough and go somewhere else?

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if you are too frustrated to talk to the Priest (which is what i recommend), could you write a letter? Perhaps schedule a meeting with the Bishop??

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These Priests need a conversion, badly.

I don't have much advise. It saddens and upsets me when I've been to Masses like that. I find it hard to be there and participate at such Parishes, so personally, I try to go where it is better. I don't see how it is a good thing to go to a Priest that makes you want to cry and distracts you from getting into Mass; who gives awful advise in confession; who is a bad example, and weakens your faith; who hurts the faith of the little ones by his irreverence and lack of seriousness about growing in holiness. I could go on and on...

:throws fist in the air:

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MissScripture

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if you are too frustrated to talk to the Priest (which is what i recommend), could you write a letter? Perhaps schedule a meeting with the Bishop??
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At this point, it's not my actual parish, so I can go anywhere, but my parents are the ones struggling. (And I would feel bad about not going there when I'm at my parents', because it's the parish I grew up at --where I had first communion, got confirmed, got married, etc. There are a lot of people I love very much there.) I am thinking they will TRY talking to the priest, though it may not bear much, as he DOES know he is doing thing incorrectly. And well, from my experience, the Bishop gives beautiful speeches, but isn't big on changing things...

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pray. pray for the priest's conversion, for the parishioners, and for charity in your words when/if you talk to the priest.

then, do something. you're right, it is a family when you've been there your whole life. but, if it comes to a point where it is endangering your 'spirituality', then you have to do something. whether that is stay and try to work it out, or leave.

i have kids, and so i left my 'home' parish.

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You have a right to a proper mass/lturgy. If your parish is not providing such, there is no foul in movng to another parish.

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Great points. If it's endangering your spirituality, you should switch. And true, we do have the right to a proper Mass.

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