VeraMaria Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Yeah, I just read through this thread too. Leslie and HSDad, tyou're both AMAZING, God Bless ya!! When some of my closest friends went to the pro-choice "March for Women's Lives" (like half my school went ) and I refused to go things started to fall apart...then I aprticipated in a "Life Chain" when we stood with pro-life signs on one of the busiest streets in Miami for a couple of hours (it was awesome, it stretched for miles). Many driving by saw me and things got worse. The breaking point was when in science class we got into an abortion debate and I made it clear I was pro-life. Me and my friends started discussing it and it lasted for almost a month (until school ended), I would keep charity (only way to keep me sane) but my friends would start yelkling and cursing at me. All our plans for the summer are gone, they're cold and barely call me or talk to me unless it's to insult me. I've been blessed to keep many other close friends, but the ones who hate me (it's not really dislike...they've made it clear it's closer to hate ) are going to make life miserable next school year. Ok, all that was random, I just felt like I had to get it off my mind...it makes me sad that they're acting like that and that I've lost them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Vera, I think it's awesome that you've stood your ground on this important issue in spite of your (former) friends' treatment of you. That speaks very well of your character. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted August 11, 2004 Author Share Posted August 11, 2004 Well, back to this stupid ol' thread... grrrrr.... Well, we got an email from HSDad's parents today... basically, we're being banned from going to church with them when we visit them. We had fully intended to go to church with them (while not missing our Sunday obligation), but now we are being told by them to forget it-- they don't want us to. Now this church is a tiny, small church in the woods where all of HSD's family goes... basically, we've been sorta shunned... Not as a punishment, but rather as a "why should you be allowed here if you completely disagree with us?" (which I also got from my friends while we were going to both churches for a while... ) But I just want to scream, "we don't COMPLETELY disagree with you..." Anyway, that's my lousy latest news... not to mention the yuck going on right here in the house... ... plus I have a headache... (sometimes I wish I didn't have such puritanical tendancies... ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
basssoon Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 (edited) Sorry about HSDad's family Recently at work, I was told by my boss that I shouldn't even consider becoming a member of a church that "worships statues, mary, and doesn't recognize Jesus". I get this a lot from her because she was raised Cathlic and is (of course!) a expert on all things Catholic. Sometimes it makes me want to scream. :argue: :mad: Edited August 12, 2004 by basssoon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellenita Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 Prayers coming your way HSMom and most especially for HSDad and his parents.....what a time of testing for you! It never ceases to amaze me, the negative reaction from protestants, when you tell them you have become Catholic - it's as if they think you're no longer a Christian.... Sometimes it's just so exhausting isn't it?! I'm going to stay with people this weekend who will think I've completely lost my mind - they are very liberal intellectuals so it'll be one long argument! I'm not looking forward to it, but it won't be as emotionally difficult as what you're going through.... I'm already praying the Memorare! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted August 12, 2004 Author Share Posted August 12, 2004 [quote name='Ellenita' date='Aug 11 2004, 08:07 PM'] Sometimes it's just so exhausting isn't it?! [/quote] Yes... It is. I am just about to the point where I want to sell our house (and 90% of the stuff in it), pack up my husband and three kids and just head for the hills... Start over somewhere... HSbaby's birthday is next month. I doubt that they will come for it. I just wish that this wasn't effecting my kids. But it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 [quote name='homeschoolmom' date='Aug 11 2004, 08:27 PM']Yes... It is. I am just about to the point where I want to sell our house (and 90% of the stuff in it), pack up my husband and three kids and just head for the hills... Start over somewhere... [/quote] Sometimes I feel that way about my extended family, too. And they're "Catholic." We don't get a lot of support from them about the faith. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 You're always welcome in Indy, hsmom ... I'm so sorry this is happening for you guys. I'll keep praying for you guys and for HSDad's parents. Love and hugs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stagefairy Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 When my family converted (10 years ago), our friends and family spent lots of time and energy trying to convert us back. Growing up in Texas, surrounded by Southern Baptists, it was a tough move and I know it was hard on my parents. For several years as a teen I felt so confused and like I was always on the defensive. Now, I am so grateful that my parents had the courage to convert and that I am in the Catholic church. The more I learn about my faith the more I love it and I never have to feel defensive. Keep trooping. I will be praying for you!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mickey's_Girl Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 (edited) Praying for HSfamily. :wub: It's not cool. I'm really sorry. (Move to Indy! ) MG Edited August 12, 2004 by Mickey's_Girl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PedroX Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Prayers for the Homeschool family. I wish my parents didn't feel ashamed of me and my conversion, but they've never mentioned that I can't go to church with them. My prayers are with all of you. peace... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted August 13, 2004 Author Share Posted August 13, 2004 Well, good news... HSDad's parents have said that they would like us to go with them when we visit (although I am sure it will be awkward in a church of maybe 35-40 people)... But they made it clear that they will never, ever, ever go to church (mass) with us. They will miss 1st communions, etc. But this is their choice. I think they think that Catholic parishes are hotbeds of evil, idolitry and paganism and that we have joined a cult... They cannot believe we would want to raise our children there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 [quote name='homeschoolmom' date='Aug 12 2004, 09:07 PM'] Well, good news... HSDad's parents have said that they would like us to go with them when we visit (although I am sure it will be awkward in a church of maybe 35-40 people)... But they made it clear that they will never, ever, ever go to church (mass) with us. They will miss 1st communions, etc. But this is their choice. I think they think that Catholic parishes are hotbeds of evil, idolitry and paganism and that we have joined a cult... They cannot believe we would want to raise our children there. [/quote] That's good news that they'll allow you to go to church with them, but sad that they'll not be attending with you ... My father made clear to me months before I decided to join that if I did so, I would be "driving a wedge" between myself and my family. That wedge isn't really evident right now -- I have no real reason to invite them to my church, as I've already been confirmed and received first communion. But I know it will become more of an issue if I should marry and have children. I think it's at times like this that we most deeply feel the pain of the separation of the Body of Christ, and that we most definitely know that things are not as they should be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 [quote name='homeschoolmom' date='Aug 11 2004, 10:27 PM'] Yes... It is. I am just about to the point where I want to sell our house (and 90% of the stuff in it), pack up my husband and three kids and just head for the hills... Start over somewhere... HSbaby's birthday is next month. I doubt that they will come for it. I just wish that this wasn't effecting my kids. But it is. [/quote] If they don't come over for it, ask them why their love for their son is conditional, or if they only love people who agree with them... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crusader_4 Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 I have been very fortunate. When i converted at first my mom would not let me until i was 18...but i worked on her and ended up joining RCIA. But my family always ALWAYs accepted it as my decision and never got in the way of it and was supportive of it. They all showed up at my Rite of Intiation and Easter Vigil. They even took me out for dinner after both and on the Easter Vigil took my Sponsor who is a family friend and is also a Jesuit priest. So i really count my blessings that my conversion process went very smoothly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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