Depression

[IcePrincessKRS]

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No wonder he's depressed!!!
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I was about to say the same thing!

[quote name='MissScripture' timestamp='1296091407' post='2204819']
I'm pretty sure that's why I'M depressed, but he's had problems with it for a lot longer...but that's probably not helping matters. Particularly with the stupid weather deciding to be bad on the weekends he could come see me.
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Seriously, those small visits can do wonders for morale (not depressed here, but an Army wife, we get those separations ALL too often; I'm excited if I get to see him for 10 minutes when he's out in the field for a week). I will pray that the weather stays nice so he can make a trip out to see you soon!

[vee]

[quote name='MissScripture' timestamp='1296091407' post='2204819']
I'm pretty sure that's why I'M depressed, but he's had problems with it for a lot longer...but that's probably not helping matters. Particularly with the stupid weather deciding to be bad on the weekends he could come see me.
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weather

[Scrupulous]

Hope you feel better and praying for you. I've noticed that talking to someone about this or distracting yourself in a positive way can help. Defenitly pray, pray and pray.

[MissScripture]

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' timestamp='1296091691' post='2204824']
I was about to say the same thing!



Seriously, those small visits can do wonders for morale (not depressed here, but an Army wife, we get those separations ALL too often; I'm excited if I get to see him for 10 minutes when he's out in the field for a week). I will pray that the weather stays nice so he can make a trip out to see you soon!
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Yeah, I pretty much had a hysterical breakdown last weekend because the web cam wasn't working because the computer is too slow, so I couldn't talk to him. We are now buying my parents a new computer.

ETA: I can't imagine having this sort of thing even somewhat regularly. The only way I'm holding it together is that I know that there's an end and it won't be happening again...

Edited January 27, 2011 by MissScripture

[Santa Cruz]

I will be praying for you and your wife.

I hope you have a good spiritual director who can help guide you through this! Yeah and daily prayer, good food, good company, plenty of rest and exercise always help too. Lack of time may be a factor but even a 5 minute walk and a breath of scripture can make a difference.

Don't lose sight of the beatific vision!

[fides quarens intellectum]

prayers.

[Roamin Catholic]

The problem with exercise is that you need t be motivated to get up and do it in the first place. Not always easy when you are depressed..

[tnavarro61]

do some Spiritual Exercises!

The moment you open your eyes, pray! Pray that you'll feel better.

[fides quarens intellectum]

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The problem with exercise is that you need t be motivated to get up and do it in the first place. Not always easy when you are depressed..
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Then don't do it for yourself, do it for your wife.

[Cherie]

Prayers coming your way! There was a time when I felt similarly to what you're going through, and it's incredibly hard ... especially because a lot of people don't understand or think it's just something you can [i]will[/i] to get over. I know sometimes it's much harder than that.

[quote name='Roamin_Catholic' timestamp='1296114394' post='2204976']
The problem with exercise is that you need t be motivated to get up and do it in the first place. Not always easy when you are depressed..
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I know what you mean ... but if there is one thing you should [i]force yourself to do,[/i] this is it. I'm speaking from my own experience - literally, endorphins can mean the difference between a long dark night and an evening that's not so bad. Just go for a brisk walk, if it's even just 5 minutes a day. This will end up being a huge help, I PROMISE that!!! Set an alarm clock or something ... or tell yourself you can't watch TV or something else you like to do until you've had your walk.

I know everyone is different, and people will have advice coming out from the woodwork, but what really helped [i]me[/i] was distracting myself. I'd take up something I hadn't had much of a chance to do, like cooking or painting. Even focusing on healthy eating was a distraction - putting together the meals and shopping for things that are a little "unusual" but really good for you, was something that helped me put my focus on something [i]else[/i] rather than how bad I was feeling. It didn't "fix" it or make it go away, but it did at least help.

In any case, you definitely have our prayers!

[Sarah147]

[quote name='vee8' timestamp='1296074951' post='2204680']
Have you been to a doctor for a physical to rule out any health related causes? [/quote]


Search google for:

* depression and omega 3 (adults about 500 DHA/700 EPA) -- especially if you also have acne, ADHD/ADD, bipolar, OCD, bowel issues, anxiety, high cholesterol, allergies, asthma, fatigue, etc. Have a read through customer reviews on iherb.

* depression and magnesium (especially taurate)

* thyroid/adrenals and depression

* hypoglycemia and depression

* Vitamin D and depression


You might get some bloodwork.

RBC Magnesium is a better test for magnesium. And TSH/Free T3/Free T4 for thyroid. AM/PM cortisol along with ACTH for adrenals. Essential fatty acid profile for omega's.

Edited January 27, 2011 by JoyfulLife

[Lilllabettt]

I cried every day for a year. During that time I walked twice every day in the morning and at night. It kept me from going totally bonkers I guess.
Depression lies. It says "you're going to feel like this forever." Don't believe it. It isn't true.
My advice is to find someone to talk to. I didn't have a counselor per se, but I had a weekly appointment with the parish nurse. It helped for me to know someone had my back. I thought I was going to die (I was physically sick at this time too) and I didn't have enough energy to care; it was important to have someone who did care and was not going to let me just give in.

[Sarah147]

Yes, councelling is very good.

My councellor lent me this book:

"The Feeling Good Handbook" by David D. Burns M.D. ISBN: 9-780452-281325

It focuses on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is excellent for OCD, anxiety, etc. You may ask your councellor to try CBT therapy, but because it can ignore the emotional side, have regular talking, too.



I just came across this:


[b][size="1"]The Omega-3 Connection: The Groundbreaking Anti-depression Diet and Brain Program [Hardcover][/size][/b]
[size="1"] Andrew L. Stoll MD[/size]

[Era Might]

Poetry is the answer to all of life's problems (well, most of them).

[quote]Not as that dream Napoleon, rumour’s dread and centre,
Before who’s riding all the crowds divide,
Who dedicates a column and withdraws,
Nor as that general favourite and breezy visitor
To whom the weather and the ruins mean so much,
Nor as any of those who always will be welcome,
As luck or history or fun,
Do not enter like that: all these depart.

Claim, certainly, the stranger’s right to pleasure:
Ambassadors will surely entertain you
With knowledge of operas and men,
Bankers will ask for your opinion
And the heiress’ cheek lean ever so slightly towards you,
The mountains and the shopkeepers accept you
And all your walks be free.

But politeness and freedom are never enough,
Not for a life. They lead
Up to a bed that only looks like marriage;
Even the disciplined and distant admiration
For thousands who obviously want nothing
Becomes just a dowdy illness. These have their moderate success;
They exist in the vanishing hour.

But somewhere always, nowhere particularly unusual,
Almost anywhere in the landscape of water and houses,
His crying competing unsuccessfully with the cry
Of the traffic or the birds, is always standing
The one who needs you, that terrified
Imaginative child who only knows you
As what the uncles call a lie,
But knows he has to be the future and that only
The meek inherit the earth, and is neither
Charming, successful, nor a crowd;
Alone among the noise and policies of summer,
His weeping climbs towards your life like a vocation.

--W.H. Auden, "Like A Vocation"[/quote]