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Holding Hands During Our Father At Mass


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Another thing I am witnessing at my new parish is lay people taking the unconsumed Eucharist, combing them all and then placing them in the Tabernacle. It strikes me as wrong as the Priest watches on. As a former altar boy I can never recall the Priest allowing this.

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havok579257

[quote name='StMichael' timestamp='1308021768' post='2253451']
Found this online: http://www.adoremus.org/0210MassGesturesPostures.html

Thoughts? Most of this i have practiced since a child.
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this mentions shaking hands at the sign of peace. so then this would not be wrong like some people on here have mentioned, correct?

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OnlySunshine

This is definitely one thing I don't like about my current parish. I think I can name three things that are less than desirable:

-Holding hands during the Our Father
-Long Sign of Peace with hugging and handshakes
-Children's Liturgy of the Word (CLOW) with extended hands for blessing and singing "May the Word of God..." (I don't extend my hand for this)

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Nihil Obstat

[quote name='havok579257' timestamp='1308152131' post='2254010']
this mentions shaking hands at the sign of peace. so then this would not be wrong like some people on here have mentioned, correct?
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It's not necessary, and many of us object to it because it shifts the focus from the Sacrifice on the altar to the community. All that is necessary is for the priest to offer the peace of Christ. We as laypeople don't have to actually do anything at that point.

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Who cares? Is this really that big of a deal?

Am I committing a mortal sin by holding hands as I pray the "Our Father" or I hug and kiss my son at the sign of peace?

There are bigger rocks to deal with than these. As I stand before God in judgement I doubt my hand holding offenses will be scrutinized.

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faithcecelia

[quote name='socalscout' timestamp='1308164221' post='2254101']
As I stand before God in judgement I doubt my hand holding offenses will be scrutinized.
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Amen!

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ThePenciledOne

[quote name='socalscout' timestamp='1308164221' post='2254101']
Who cares? Is this really that big of a deal?

Am I committing a mortal sin by holding hands as I pray the "Our Father" or I hug and kiss my son at the sign of peace?

There are bigger rocks to deal with than these. As I stand before God in judgement I doubt my hand holding offenses will be scrutinized.
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Thank you.

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Vincent Vega

That's not a good attitude to have.

Who cares if I don't genuflect when I sit down in my pew? God knows I respect Him, so why should I go through the trouble of doing an extra action to show it?

Who cares if the priest allows some lay person to give the homily? It's just a little speech in the middle of Mass, no harm done.

Who cares if I receive in a state of mortal sin? God knows I'm sorry, I don't have to go to confession and all that stuff.

Who cares if I show up for Mass today? God knows I love him, if I miss just once or twice a month, it's alright.

And so on with the slippery slope examples increasing in gravity.


Counter-argument: If it's such a "little rock" and easy to deal with, why not just cut it out?

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Nihil Obstat

[quote name='socalscout' timestamp='1308164221' post='2254101']
Who cares? Is this really that big of a deal?

Am I committing a mortal sin by holding hands as I pray the "Our Father" or I hug and kiss my son at the sign of peace?

There are bigger rocks to deal with than these. As I stand before God in judgement I doubt my hand holding offenses will be scrutinized.
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Nobody said it was sinful. Lots of people said they're uncomfortable with it, as is their right. The way I express my own faith does not include hand holding, and in terms of my own personality it makes me extremely uncomfortable.
I don't have to like it.
The exact point at which I draw the line is the point at which someone tries to compel me to perform with them their extra-liturgical postures.

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[quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1308166173' post='2254116']
Nobody said it was sinful. Lots of people said they're uncomfortable with it, as is their right. The way I express my own faith does not include hand holding, and in terms of my own personality it makes me extremely uncomfortable.
I don't have to like it.
The exact point at which I draw the line is the point at which someone tries to compel me to perform with them their extra-liturgical postures.
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I guess I am a bit different. If I had a default position, it would be not to hold hands; but if someone outstretched their hand to me, I would take it.
A brother or sister with an outstretched hand really doesn't make me exremely uncomfortable. But I wholeheartedly agree it is your right to not be compelled to hold hands.

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ThePenciledOne

[quote name='USAirwaysIHS' timestamp='1308166055' post='2254114']
That's not a good attitude to have.

Who cares if I don't genuflect when I sit down in my pew? God knows I respect Him, so why should I go through the trouble of doing an extra action to show it?

Who cares if the priest allows some lay person to give the homily? It's just a little speech in the middle of Mass, no harm done.

Who cares if I receive in a state of mortal sin? God knows I'm sorry, I don't have to go to confession and all that stuff.

Who cares if I show up for Mass today? God knows I love him, if I miss just once or twice a month, it's alright.

And so on with the slippery slope examples increasing in gravity.


Counter-argument: If it's such a "little rock" and easy to deal with, why not just cut it out?
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Questions before the counter-argument, just because someone says "Who cares?" does not mean it makes everything else relative...

And as to the counter-argument, the question is not so much, 'why not just cut it out?' If it's already in place at a parish and if it's going to cause a lot of hub bub to eradicate it, where some thing it's a bigger rock then best to let it be, there are worst things that can be within the Mass. I think that's what he's getting at maybe, though that's just my perception.

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[quote name='ThePenciledOne' timestamp='1308167855' post='2254139']
And as to the counter-argument, the question is not so much, 'why not just cut it out?' If it's already in place at a parish and if it's going to cause a lot of hub bub to eradicate it, where some thing it's a bigger rock then best to let it be, [/quote]

While I can see the value of this argument, I think it puts a pastoral spin on something that wasn't designed to be pastoral to begin with... i could be wrong, though...

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Nihil Obstat

[quote name='MIkolbe' timestamp='1308166486' post='2254120']
I guess I am a bit different. If I had a default position, it would be not to hold hands; but if someone outstretched their hand to me, I would take it.
A brother or sister with an outstretched hand really doesn't make me exremely uncomfortable. But I wholeheartedly agree it is your right to not be compelled to hold hands.
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For me it's a combination of psychological and theological. Theologically, it's superfluous. Roughly on the level of holding a rosary or medal in your hands during Mass to help you pray.
So theologically it's not necessary, which leaves some limited, reasonable freedom to us laypeople. In that context, that's where psychology comes in. I don't like holding hands. It makes me personally uncomfortable. That's all just multiplied to an enormous degree if I feel like I'm being pressured or forced.
So theologically unnecessary objectively, and subjectively, on my personal level, harmful to my participation in the Mass.

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