Couple Aborts Sons, Waiting For Daughter

[CatherineM]

As the youngest, and highly waited for girl, after a bunch of boys, I will relate a conversation I had with my mom when I was about 12 years old. She lamented the fact that she had waited so long for a girl to dress up in pink frilly dresses, and all I wanted to wear was my older brothers' hand-me-downs. I asked her what she expected raising me with all those boys.

[Archaeology cat]

[quote name='MithLuin' timestamp='1295057417' post='2200195']
I do think that is a terrible thing, and indicative of the feeling of...entitlement, of control and choice, associated with IVF. Because of the technology, couples (or even single women) feel justified in saying...I want things [i]my[/i] way. I want this...but not that....and I am going to make it happen.

I have a friend who is herself one of three girls. So, she grew up without brothers, and was not close (geographically) to any of her cousins. So...she really doesn't have much experience with young boys, and always said that she wanted to have daughters herself. Her first child was a girl (all was well). She's pregnant with the second child, a boy, and she's struggling to be excited about that. I mean, she's happy she's having a baby, but....she wasn't happy to hear it was a boy. Hopefully, by the time the baby is born, she'll be thrilled and get over her last vestiges of reticence. Certainly, her baby is in no danger of falling victim to something like these babies did! I just mention it to say that it's certainly natural to have some gender preferences in light of the circumstances, but [i]how you deal with[/i] such a thing is really the issue.
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I'll admit that I struggled with being excited about having a girl at first, but now I can't imagine not having her, and I certainly don't love her any less than Kieran. A lot of my trepidation came from seeing that certain family members favour girls over boys, and I didn't want my son to be left out with having a sister, but so far it hasn't been a problem, thank God.

[quote name='CatherineM' timestamp='1295063364' post='2200216']
As the youngest, and highly waited for girl, after a bunch of boys, I will relate a conversation I had with my mom when I was about 12 years old. She lamented the fact that she had waited so long for a girl to dress up in pink frilly dresses, and all I wanted to wear was my older brothers' hand-me-downs. I asked her what she expected raising me with all those boys.
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I had a similar discussion with my mother, only with her talking about Charlotte. I was a tomboy, and never enjoyed dolls and pink, despite my mother's attempts to get me to like those things. Charlotte is the first granddaughter on my side, and my mother is quite excited, but commented that, excited as she is to be able to knit dresses and dolls and such, Charlotte will probably end up being a tomboy. Charlotte is quite rough-and-tumble, but with Kieran for a brother, she doesn't have much choice. :giggle:

[Hinter dem Horizont]

And this is why the legalization of abortion is a dangerous idea...

[Winchester]

[quote name='Socrates' timestamp='1295029435' post='2200079']
Careful Winnie, the bleeding hearts will take your words at face value.
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I took the passage straight from Pope Kennedy's Catechism. Archbichop Pelosi's imprimatur edition.

Edited January 15, 2011 by Winchester

[Lil Red]

[quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1295120371' post='2200424']
I took the passage straight from Pope Kennedy's Catechism. Archbichop Pelosi's imprimatur edition.
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i need a copy of that.

[cmotherofpirl]

[quote name='Archaeology cat' timestamp='1295096403' post='2200320']
I'll admit that I struggled with being excited about having a girl at first, but now I can't imagine not having her, and I certainly don't love her any less than Kieran. A lot of my trepidation came from seeing that certain family members favour girls over boys, and I didn't want my son to be left out with having a sister, but so far it hasn't been a problem, thank God.


I had a similar discussion with my mother, only with her talking about Charlotte. I was a tomboy, and never enjoyed dolls and pink, despite my mother's attempts to get me to like those things. Charlotte is the first granddaughter on my side, and my mother is quite excited, but commented that, excited as she is to be able to knit dresses and dolls and such, Charlotte will probably end up being a tomboy. Charlotte is quite rough-and-tumble, but with Kieran for a brother, she doesn't have much choice. :giggle:
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Yep, I had two sons, then a daughter. I too, was excited to buy something other than boys clothes and enjoyed buying the dresses. However they didn't last long as she tagged after "her boys" as she called them, kickball, climbing trees etc. Shes also the one who did karate, boy scouts, and joined the Military Police. But I will point out with with some satisfaction( finally ) that after a long day in military uniform she kicks back in the laciest frilliest girly things she can find.

[socalscout]

[quote name='thessalonian' timestamp='1295011821' post='2200008']
"I'm not against abortion."

On what moral basis can you judge anything as wrong if you don't see abortion as wrong? How can you say "this is awful". You are drawing arbitrary lines based on personal whim and children are dying. I think this is awful and there is a God who would agree.
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Thank you! I was looking to see who was going to address that little tidbit first.

[Socrates]

[quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1295120371' post='2200424']
I took the passage straight from Pope Kennedy's Catechism. Archbichop Pelosi's imprimatur edition.
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But of course.

Pro-lifers need to stop the divisive rhetoric, and instead focus on the things we all agree on, like the need for more socialism.