Maggyie Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Okay, let me come out and say that I am the sucker "friend" Lilla is talking about. How cute of her to post about me on phatmass. However as usual, my idiot sister has everything backwards. He did not suddenly "remember" he had a $40,000 school loan- he told me about this four months into our relationship. So yes, we have discussed our finances in detail. He did not get me a $20 gift card, he got me a day at a spa, which didn't have the price tag attached. But I checked and the basic package starts at $350. And I actually spent Christmas Eve afternoon with his family. And, oh yes, this is the best part, we were NOT planning to get engaged this Christmas (however, my insane bipolar mother and the other harpies in my family were planning for me to get engaged, because it's ALL ABOUT THEM snort snort). The only sighing and crying throughout my entire relationship has been done by Lilla and the others (because he only makes $45,000 a year; because he lives on the west side of town and not the east side where we live). Their urge to control and criticize and nag spills over into other areas of my life, such as my career - besides enduring their snide remarks and conspiracy theories about my love life, I also get treated to long monologues about how I am an embarrassment to them professionally because I am in sales. This is how Lilla responded to the news that I accepted a job offer with a big raise: "oh noooo! I'm so sad!" Because it is commission based and not salary. Well, Lilla has never had to make a car payment or even a cell phone bill payment in her life (ah the joys of the 7 year college graduation plan), so she doesn't quite understand the value of earning an honest living. And she hasn't ever had a boyfriend, either. So she doesn't understand that two years is actually not that long to be dating. Although, for the record, we haven't been together two years, either. 19 months. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Wait... What? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I am closing this thread. I think you guys need to have a family talk. It's one thing to ask for advice but I don't think that PhatMass is really the appropriate place to be airing all this stuff. Talk to each other and pray for one another. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 i just wanted to add my apologies for jumping to conclusions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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