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[cmotherofpirl]

[quote name='apparently' timestamp='1287677911' post='2181324']
With the onset of woman's liberation, that is so prevalent in today's society are the old morays about marriage relevant

Will you keep tradition?

scary stuff I.E. [url="http://blogs.babble.com/famecrawler/2010/10/15/doogie-howser-is-a-daddy-neil-patrick-harris-welcomes-twins/"](im-mature content) link[/url]
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Neither of these are part of catholic tradition, merely cultural traditions.

[CatherineM]

When my husband proposed, I told him I was a traditional southern woman, and if he didn't do it proper on one knee, I'd make him call one of my red-neck brothers and ask their permission. I've never seen him move so fast, before or since. He looked like a football lineman trying to ballet dance.

[add]

pleasant memories they are

[tinytherese]

What if the bride has a really awful relationship with her dad, like he's been abusive to her? Could her godfather, uncle, or brother give her away then?

[MissScripture]

[quote name='tinytherese' timestamp='1287775494' post='2181611']
What if the bride has a really awful relationship with her dad, like he's been abusive to her? Could her godfather, uncle, or brother give her away then?
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Since it isn't a church thing, it really doesn't matter in the eyes of the church. It is really up to you, if you even want anyone to walk you down the aisle. I have seen where the bride and groom have walked down the aisle, together.

[Winchester]

[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Jtpf8N5IDE[/media]

[cmotherofpirl]

[quote name='tinytherese' timestamp='1287775494' post='2181611']
What if the bride has a really awful relationship with her dad, like he's been abusive to her? Could her godfather, uncle, or brother give her away then?
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Brides are not property, nobody owns them, they are not given away, they are merely escorted down the aisle. Both of my parents escorted me down the aisle since I was raised by both of them.

[Winchester]

[quote name='cmotherofpirl' timestamp='1287801569' post='2181685']
Brides are not property
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Correctamundo!

They are sammich machines.

[CatherineM]

My father passed away in 1986, so that wasn't an option for me. My father in law escorted me in. He said it was the least he could do for a fallen comrade. He wasn't giving me away. He was helping me walk steady. I was nervous and determined to walk down the aisle without my crutches.

[add]

i new in my heart that my soon to be bride was the one after i met her mother, there goodness transcends, her dad is really cool too.

[tinytherese]

I found two songs earlier about dads showing their love to their daughters. The first one is comical and the second is really touching.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jjO9kX4npVY






http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7fV6fmBerRg

[add]

[quote name='Maggie' timestamp='1287685035' post='2181386']
Catholic women aren't given away by their fathers (or anyone else) at the wedding. They're not supposed to be, anyway (although I know some priests who mess with the liturgy and insert this line, grrrr). This is an Anglican tradition that rose out of a period of time when women were chattal and a marriage meant a transfer of property (the woman). In Catholic tradition, the bride and groom give the sacrament to each other so the parents do not come into it.

I suppose to be consistent the same principle would have to apply to asking the father for his daughter's hand in marriage... dad's not the one who decides if there's a sacrament, the bride and groom do. His opinion is meaningless as far as the Church is concerned. However I admit that I hope my guy asks my dad for my hand... it's kind of a romantic thing to do...
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then why is it so hard to let them go? did you ever hear of empty-nest syndrome
it is not my place to "give my daughters hand in marriage" , unless she ask us to. i pray that if she chooses to marry that she might do that for us (her mom and me)

Edited October 24, 2010 by apparently