IgnatiusofLoyola Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 [quote name='Didacus' date='11 July 2010 - 02:10 PM' timestamp='1278875404' post='2141243'] +1 Igna, I like th openedness and honesty in your post. Thanks for sharing. [/quote] Thank-you! That was totally unexpected, and very nice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Didacus Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 *blush* Knabit and gumbiche, you've made me blush. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Catholover Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 My mom was a grandma at 40... right after her last son was born! (It was really cute to see my mom and sister-in-law pregnant at the same time!) By age 50 she already had 4 grandchildren and is so fulfilled. Every year she puts on "Camp Grandma" at her house... with us aunts and uncles as counselors! I love my CUTE nieces and nephews! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Didacus Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 [quote name='Catholover' date='11 July 2010 - 07:23 PM' timestamp='1278890597' post='2141356'] My mom was a grandma at 40... right after her last son was born! (It was really cute to see my mom and sister-in-law pregnant at the same time!) By age 50 she already had 4 grandchildren and is so fulfilled. Every year she puts on "Camp Grandma" at her house... with us aunts and uncles as counselors! I love my CUTE nieces and nephews! [/quote] +1! This I like. What does GrandPa do at camp GrandMa? Wait for GrandMa in the living room? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 [quote name='Didacus' date='11 July 2010 - 08:34 AM' timestamp='1278855286' post='2141164'] Well, I agree that chilren should be married prior to having children of their own. But unfortunately, life doesn't always work out that way, and mistakes do happen. My 15 year old got his gilrfriend pregnant and I'm going tobe a grandfather in about 6-7 months if all goes well. That will make me a grandfather at 37 years old. I think that's a little young for today's standards. My son may have made mistakes, but when his girlfriend wanted an abortion, he showed her some youtube videos I showed him a few years back to convince her otherwise. My son may have made mistakes, but he's still got a decent heart. I think he's got some difficult times ahead though. [/quote] My parents had to become parents to two of their grandchildren. My brother wasn't young in years, but in maturity. He got injured in a car accident, and broke up with his wife at the same time. She didn't want the kids, and the judge was about to send them to foster care when my mom stepped forward. I was 10 at the time, so I did a lot of the diaper changes and baths, but they were the ones dealing with paying for it. Diapers and soy formula are pretty expensive. I probably don't have to tell you that you guys will end up taking on financial responsibilities rather than have your son interrupt his education. My parents struggled with resentments. My dad got mad about the finances, and my mom got mad about my brother shirking his responsibilities. They both felt like bad parents at times. They also took their frustrations out on each other. You guys will get through this, and one day will look back and try to remember why it was so hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Didacus Posted July 12, 2010 Author Share Posted July 12, 2010 Thanks Cat. I'm realy trying to make the best of things. I realize my retirement is geting pushed back considerably if ever it gets here at all. My son is extremely difficult - I won't gt into details (my two youngest however are little angels by any standards!). I appreciate the encouragement. I kinda like the idea of having a new little one, but its my son who doesn't take care of himself and who certainly will need help and is being 'difficult' that will make things hard. We'll get through it of course. I insist on not getting angry. I refuse to have a new life, a gift from God, be the center of [i]any[/i] anger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MithLuin Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 Yeah...don't let your son's errors damage your own marriage, either. I've seen [i]parents[/i] get divorced over how these situations were handled. As for 15 being young...it is. He'll have to grow up a lot faster than his peers, and figure out how to support his child. Knowing that you guys are there for him can make that a lot less scary. I realize that some parents have a reason for kicking kids out when the behavior just is too out of control, but they do need you. My cousin got his girlfriend pregnant when they were both 16. He dropped out of high school to support them, and she finished up and continued on for a certificate in the medical profession. When their son was 5 years old, they got married - he was best man at their wedding! Is that ideal? Of course not. But they're making a family out of it anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
princessgianna Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 [quote name='homeschoolmom' date='10 July 2010 - 09:50 PM' timestamp='1278816651' post='2141036'] At whatever age one has married, adult children? [/quote] Right on! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 [quote name='Didacus' date='11 July 2010 - 09:13 PM' timestamp='1278904438' post='2141475'] Thanks Cat. I'm realy trying to make the best of things. I realize my retirement is geting pushed back considerably if ever it gets here at all. My son is extremely difficult - I won't gt into details (my two youngest however are little angels by any standards!). I appreciate the encouragement. I kinda like the idea of having a new little one, but its my son who doesn't take care of himself and who certainly will need help and is being 'difficult' that will make things hard. We'll get through it of course. I insist on not getting angry. I refuse to have a new life, a gift from God, be the center of [i]any[/i] anger. [/quote] I finally got more +1's. I think that is a commendable attitude to have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Didacus Posted July 12, 2010 Author Share Posted July 12, 2010 Thanks pham, I knew I came to a good place to talk. God bless... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
add Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 today is a good day, bring it on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elizabeth09 Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I think no yougher then 55, but it`s when one of the children get married and all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Didacus Posted September 19, 2010 Author Share Posted September 19, 2010 I just wanted to note that my son's girlfriend lost the baby a little while back. She's doing ok, was a sad few days. We had started buying the baby stuff. A little teddy bear from grand-pa was all ready. Nothing is lost in this world, all find themselves in the Lord's hands. IT is in this end that all will be known and that we will see those things that we missed. In this we trust will all our hearts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I'm so sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dauntingknight Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 When the time is right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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