What Is A Good Age To Become A Grandfather/mother?

[Didacus]

Grandfather at 40?
50? 60?

bring out your reasoning...

Who around here dreams of becoming a grandfather/mother?

[IcePrincessKRS]

My mom was a grandmother at 45... actually, I think she was 44. She turned 45 that year, after the first two grandbabies were born.

[Vincent Vega]

Well certainly no earlier than 19.

[homeschoolmom]

At whatever age one has married, adult children?

[Sojourner]

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' date='10 July 2010 - 08:43 PM' timestamp='1278816233' post='2141034']
My mom was a grandmother at 45... actually, I think she was 44. She turned 45 that year, after the first two grandbabies were born.
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haha ... that's the age at which my husband became a dad!

[quote name='homeschoolmom' date='10 July 2010 - 08:50 PM' timestamp='1278816651' post='2141036']
At whatever age one has married, adult children?
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This.

My mom became a grandmother at 64, and had her second after her 65th birthday. My husband's mom was in her 50s.

[MithLuin]

My parents were in their 50s when they became grandparents. Their daughter was a married adult. All seems good to me!

When you're in your 70's, it's more difficult to be as active and keep up with toddlers, but I know some older folks who are wonderful grandparents. I don't think there is one best age.

I'm not going to think about becoming a grandparent until after I'm a parent first.

[Ed Normile]

Where is the choice, " When God see's fit to bless you with grandchildren " ?

ed

[MarieLynn]

Fortunately we have no say as to when we will become grandparents, its all up to our kids, after all!!!

As for me, I first became a grandmother at 47, and my husband was 50, AND we love all 5 of them to bits!![img]http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/public/style_emoticons/default/lol_roll.gif[/img]

[Didacus]

Well, I agree that chilren should be married prior to having children of their own. But unfortunately, life doesn't always work out that way, and mistakes do happen.

My 15 year old got his gilrfriend pregnant and I'm going tobe a grandfather in about 6-7 months if all goes well. That will make me a grandfather at 37 years old. I think that's a little young for today's standards.

My son may have made mistakes, but when his girlfriend wanted an abortion, he showed her some youtube videos I showed him a few years back to convince her otherwise. My son may have made mistakes, but he's still got a decent heart. I think he's got some difficult times ahead though.

[CatherineM]

My dad was 47 when I was born, and 53 when his first grandchild was born. I think young enough to enjoy them, but old enough that you don't get freaked out by it.

[Nihil Obstat]

I'll get back to you when I have children.

[IgnatiusofLoyola]

My parents stayed in denial of their increasing age for a long time, but about age 60 or or maybe a little later, my father suddenly decided he really wanted to be a grandfather. He wanted a grandchild immediately and demanded to me, "Why haven't you given me a grandchild?"

Since people don't usually have the choice of what age they become grandparents, my father had to wait until age 67 until my sister presented him with his perfect granddaughter (and my perfect niece). The perfect grandson (and nephew) came along a couple of years later.

On the other hand, one of my cousins became a grandmother at age 55, and she'd been ready and looking forward to becoming a grandmother for several years already.

Even being a little older when they became grandparents worked out for my parents. They are both living, and live close by enough that they have been able to develop real relationships with their grandchildren. My grandparents died when I was younger, and in the case of both my grandfathers, I was so young when they died that I never got to know them at all. It's wonderful that my niece and nephew have people in their life who think they are so wonderful.

What I didn't expect when my parents became grandparents was that, while I had assumed I was important to my parents, suddenly my siblings and I came far back in second place behind the grandchildren. My siblings and I used to talk about which one of us our parents liked best. (It's changed several times over the years.) But, as my sister kiddingly said after her children were born, "It no longer matters which one of us our parents like best, because now we aren't even in the same league (in their affection) as their grandchildren."

Edited July 11, 2010 by IgnatiusofLoyola

[Vincent Vega]

[quote name='Didacus' date='11 July 2010 - 09:34 AM' timestamp='1278855286' post='2141164']
Well, I agree that chilren should be married prior to having children of their own. But unfortunately, life doesn't always work out that way, and mistakes do happen.

My 15 year old got his gilrfriend pregnant and I'm going tobe a grandfather in about 6-7 months if all goes well. That will make me a grandfather at 37 years old. I think that's a little young for today's standards.

My son may have made mistakes, but when his girlfriend wanted an abortion, he showed her some youtube videos I showed him a few years back to convince her otherwise. My son may have made mistakes, but he's still got a decent heart. I think he's got some difficult times ahead though.
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May God give you and the parents-to-be strength in these coming times.

[Sojourner]

[quote name='Didacus' date='11 July 2010 - 07:34 AM' timestamp='1278855286' post='2141164']
Well, I agree that chilren should be married prior to having children of their own. But unfortunately, life doesn't always work out that way, and mistakes do happen.

My 15 year old got his gilrfriend pregnant and I'm going tobe a grandfather in about 6-7 months if all goes well. That will make me a grandfather at 37 years old. I think that's a little young for today's standards.

My son may have made mistakes, but when his girlfriend wanted an abortion, he showed her some youtube videos I showed him a few years back to convince her otherwise. My son may have made mistakes, but he's still got a decent heart. I think he's got some difficult times ahead though.
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That is a little young by today's standards, but my guess is that your son and his girlfriend will need plenty of support as they shoulder the responsibilities of the choices they'll need to make. Your youth will be an advantage in that you'll have the energy to help them.

Thanks be to God that he was able to convince his girlfriend to keep the child. Prayers that all goes well through her pregnancy.

[Didacus]

+1 Igna, I like th openedness and honesty in your post.

Thanks for sharing.