Catholic Fox Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='Raphael' date='05 June 2010 - 09:00 PM' timestamp='1275789636' post='2124376'] You have a lot of growing up to do. [/quote] Whoever gave this a -1 really needs to grow up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XIX Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 10:05 PM' timestamp='1275786345' post='2124318'] Yes clearly going to a bachelor party is on the same level as getting an abortion or becoming an alcoholic. I know this is a place for "hardcore" Catholics, but 99% of America and I'd say a majority of Catholics don't walk such a strict line. [/quote] Soft porn is about as addictive as cocaine, and probably more destructive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brother Adam Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 Going to a strip club is a very serious sin - it is a violation of love in so many ways, and right before a wedding to someone you are committing your life to? It completely misuses another person as an object, instead of seeing them as a person. Then, if there is any interaction (physical touch all the way up to sex) with the dancer, it piles on the gravity of the sin. While a stripper is 'suppose' to be a staple of a bachelor party, I don't know anyone that has ever actually been to one with a stripper, and I have a lot of non-Christian family. What a terribly way to spend a night before your marriage. I can't think of anything more grievous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Catholic Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='Raphael' date='05 June 2010 - 09:00 PM' timestamp='1275789636' post='2124376'] You have a lot of growing up to do. [/quote] Dude give me a break, I've fought in a war, earned a college degree, have a solid job, and have had a beautiful caring relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years. Just because I take more things lightly does not allow for you to question someone's maturity or other characteristics. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catholic Fox Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 09:33 PM' timestamp='1275791637' post='2124400'] Dude give me a break, I've fought in a war, earned a college degree, have a solid job, and have had a beautiful caring relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years. Just because I take more things lightly does not allow for you to question someone's maturity or other characteristics. [/quote] I agree...you should be the next Pope! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rwri10 Posted June 6, 2010 Author Share Posted June 6, 2010 Thank you for your advice & prayers phatmassers. I don't plan on leaving my husband. This has just been a climax to many other things going on in our marriage is why I would like to seek help from a priest.. Just looking for Catholic viewpoints, as it is good for me to hear. As the priest said at our wedding, my duty now in this marriage is to get him to heaven as his is mine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vincent Vega Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='Raphael' date='05 June 2010 - 10:00 PM' timestamp='1275789636' post='2124376'] You have a lot of growing up to do. [/quote] You can't talk to him like that...he's a big boy! He's not still in high school! (Ironically, I thought one was supposed to leave that attitude of omniscience behind after he [i]left [/i]high school, but he wear the grownup britches, not me. ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnightofChrist Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='rwri10' date='05 June 2010 - 10:36 PM' timestamp='1275791781' post='2124402'] Thank you for your advice & prayers phatmassers. I don't plan on leaving my husband. This has just been a climax to many other things going on in our marriage is why I would like to seek help from a priest.. Just looking for Catholic viewpoints, as it is good for me to hear. As the priest said at our wedding, my duty now in this marriage is to get him to heaven as his is mine. [/quote] God bless, and sorry your thread was and continues to be hijacked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apotheoun Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='rwri10' date='05 June 2010 - 08:36 PM' timestamp='1275791781' post='2124402'] Thank you for your advice & prayers phatmassers. I don't plan on leaving my husband. This has just been a climax to many other things going on in our marriage is why I would like to seek help from a priest.. Just looking for Catholic viewpoints, as it is good for me to hear. As the priest said at our wedding, my duty now in this marriage is to get him to heaven as his is mine. [/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hassan Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 10:33 PM' timestamp='1275791637' post='2124400'] Dude give me a break, I've fought in a war, earned a college degree, have a solid job, and have had a beautiful caring relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years. Just because I take more things lightly does not allow for you to question someone's maturity or other characteristics. [/quote] Win. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeffpugh Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='ThePenciledOne' date='05 June 2010 - 09:36 PM' timestamp='1275788187' post='2124357'] I wrote a blog post a while back concerning bachelor parties. I dunno if it will help, but sometimes it can when you here another voice that can put into word your own feelings maybe. [url="http://thepenciledone.wordpress.com/2009/11/03/the-party-is-over-now/"] The Party is Over Now[/url] [/quote] Plus one. [quote name='rwri10' date='05 June 2010 - 10:36 PM' timestamp='1275791781' post='2124402'] Thank you for your advice & prayers phatmassers. I don't plan on leaving my husband. This has just been a climax to many other things going on in our marriage is why I would like to seek help from a priest.. Just looking for Catholic viewpoints, as it is good for me to hear. As the priest said at our wedding, my duty now in this marriage is to get him to heaven as his is mine. [/quote] Werd. Rock on. God will be your strength! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catholic Fox Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='rwri10' date='05 June 2010 - 09:36 PM' timestamp='1275791781' post='2124402'] Thank you for your advice & prayers phatmassers. I don't plan on leaving my husband. This has just been a climax to many other things going on in our marriage is why I would like to seek help from a priest.. Just looking for Catholic viewpoints, as it is good for me to hear. As the priest said at our wedding, my duty now in this marriage is to get him to heaven as his is mine. [/quote] You and your husband truly do have my prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rwri10 Posted June 6, 2010 Author Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='Raphael' date='05 June 2010 - 09:00 PM' timestamp='1275789636' post='2124376'] You have a lot of growing up to do. [/quote] Semper Catholic, Your attitude towards this topic is certainally common, and one that I often hear which saddens me. But it is out of line with the Church's teachings. To say you are Catholic means to accept the faith entirely, not picking and choosing what suits your life best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rwri10 Posted June 6, 2010 Author Share Posted June 6, 2010 [quote name='ThePenciledOne' date='05 June 2010 - 08:36 PM' timestamp='1275788187' post='2124357'] I wrote a blog post a while back concerning bachelor parties. I dunno if it will help, but sometimes it can when you here another voice that can put into word your own feelings maybe. [url="http://thepenciledone.wordpress.com/2009/11/03/the-party-is-over-now/"] The Party is Over Now[/url] [/quote] Great post. Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rhetoricfemme Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 (edited) Rwri10, I'm sorry that you're going through this. The only thing I could suggest is telling your husband how these things make you feel, and how you think they're affecting your relationship. And sure, talking to a priest could definitely give some more insight and hope into the situation! ::hugs:: I'll be praying for you. [quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 09:38 PM' timestamp='1275788286' post='2124359'] With that said, I am arguing that this shouldn't be made out to be a bigger problem then it actually is. [/quote] I don't feel like dragging you through the mud here, but I think you're missing a major factor here, which is that the OP is hurting and looking for some advice and consolation from an orthodox Catholic perspective. Being around strippers is a hurtful thing, and when you get right down to it, it doesn't even have anything to do with religion. Yes, Catholics (all Christians, and really, all people) are called to a higher standard than what our culture says is 'good enough.' But no matter who you are, stripping is a form of pornography, and it's degrading to everyone involved. It suggests that one's significant other is not enough to satiate oneself, and it's a selfish thing engage in. It replaces love with lust, which is shallow and unfair. Let's leave the American/world standard out of it, and remember Christ's standard instead. Edited June 6, 2010 by rhetoricfemme Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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