Paddington Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 We've seen each other many times and it's all friendliness. Unfortunately, we haven't had in-depth conversations. I'm gonna write down some topics on a 3x5 or something and refer to it when I'm on the phone. What should I write down? Any other phone advice? I got her number last nite. She will work all weekend and I will work Sunday and Monday. Should I call her Monday afternoon? Tuesday? And I gotta have an idea for a date. I only have one good idea right now. Need more. Especially the ones that don't cost much money or are free. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Women love to talk about themselves. Ask about her favorite movies, books, tv show, etc. That will allow you to find some common ground to talk about. Cheap dates that don't seem cheap. My husband and I like to go to garage sales together, and just have coffee and talk. There's a coffee house here that is in a used book store, and it has a fire place. We look at the books, and then sit by the fire. Ask around to see if anyone has tickets to something they aren't going to use. The local Freecycle can sometimes come up with some. We've gone to those free learning classes at the Home Depot. Go paint a pot together at one of those pottery places. A hike with a picnic lunch is romantic too. Build a Bear is fun, but not so cheap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brother Adam Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 I don't know man. I'm not sure how I ended up with my beloved. I always had the hardest time talking to girls. My wife was cashiering in the lane next to mine (I was a cashier too) and I started throwing little crumpled balls of receipt paper at her to try to "flirt" with her. She was mad as hell and at one point told me "I would not date you if you were the last guy on earth." The only recommendation I can make is to treat her as a friend (friends are easier to talk to than girls). I ended up eventually marrying my best friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIKolbe Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 I think flash cards for conv topic is good; just make sure you also listen. Chicks kinda dig it when a guy actually listens. As Sidney Deane would say, "Billy, I have four words for you: "Listen to the Woman" " Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 My belief is that it's not so much what you do as who you do it with. For our first date we went to a fun restaurant which had games (a good filler if conversation runs a little slow). Then we went to a bookstore and got hot chocolate and walked around, then went to a bowling alley and ended up continuing our conversation over drinks instead of bowling, because the music was too loud to have a real conversation. Second date was a museum, dinner, and dessert. We were both a little nervous. We talked a lot about nuclear war, since I had been reading about it for one of my classes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Jason is da man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brightsadness Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Someplace comfortable with good coffee/tea, good music and some good books is a nice setting for for a first date. Inexpensive also. If it goes after dark, a walk along the decorated streets is fun too. If the interest is mutual, she won't care about what you spend. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaime Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 I would talk about Rachael. If you need assistance, I like to read from her random thoughts thread. I don't have any suggestions for the second date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picchick Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Go with the flow? I am bad at dating advice so maybe I should post. Just kinda ask her questions...not drill questions but fun questions. I seem to come up with weird ones but they are ones that I am genuinely interested about like color and animal and what they would ask God when they die...that sorta thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Ask what she's wearing. Girls love that. It shows you care about things that are important to her. I'd recommend bringing up something about herself that she's mentioned to you recently, if she's mentioned anything. I'd be willing to bet that she'd like that you remembered and thought about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veridicus Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' date='28 November 2009 - 06:02 PM' timestamp='1259449320' post='2010791'] Ask what she's wearing. Girls love that. It shows you care about things that are important to her. [/quote] Yeah just be careful when you ask that that you don't come across as creepy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 [quote name='Veridicus' date='28 November 2009 - 05:24 PM' timestamp='1259450659' post='2010797'] Yeah just be careful when you ask that that you don't come across as creepy. [/quote] Seriously? Is there a way to ask that and not sound like a creep? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picchick Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' date='28 November 2009 - 06:25 PM' timestamp='1259450748' post='2010798'] Seriously? Is there a way to ask that and not sound like a creep? [img]http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/public/style_emoticons/default/P.gif[/img] [/quote] I'd probably answer it with a firm and clear *click* Unless I knew the guy and knew he was just teasing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 [quote name='picchick' date='28 November 2009 - 05:30 PM' timestamp='1259451027' post='2010799'] I'd probably answer it with a firm and clear *click* Unless I knew the guy and knew he was just teasing. [/quote] Lol, funny story. This one girl was telling a story...... she was talking to some guy she knew on the phone, and he said "my friend wants to know what you're wearing", so she started something saying like "well sweatpants and a t-shirt, and-" and the guy goes "hang on, hang on, you're supposed to make up something sexy!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saint Therese Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 I thought you were a chick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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