God Hates Me

[MissyP89]

[quote name='Maggie' date='25 November 2009 - 05:25 PM' timestamp='1259187945' post='2009423']
Ha, I just spoke to lover boy about how I feel, and he made me feel so much better about it. "Bowling is for having fun, not for having nervous breakdowns, Maggie." hahahahaha!
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Zactly!

[Jaime]

This will probably be the worst day of your life

[Maggyie]

[quote name='hot stuff' date='25 November 2009 - 09:50 PM' timestamp='1259200209' post='2009486']
This will probably be the worst day of your life
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Worse than the one day I temped as a receptionist at a paper company, like Pam from [i]The Office[/i], except unlike Pam from [i]The Office[/i] I didn't know how to work the phones? At all? And at that time I was a penniless youth and so I had no car, therefore my mom came to pick me up at the end of the work day? And she was totally wasted? And somebody called the cops? No matter how bad it is, it will not surpass being 18 years old and watching your mom do the walk-a-straight-line test and failing... although if the bowling ball slips from my hand during my wind up, flies through the air and kills Daniel's mother I will be very sad.

[Maggyie]

[quote name='Lilllabettt' date='25 November 2009 - 10:08 AM' timestamp='1259158087' post='2009179']
Dear Maggie,

I wish I was coming home for Thanksgiving so I could smack you upside the head.

Bowling is FUN idjit. Most likley it will be, for you, a FREE game of bowling. So milk it.
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I'm-a gunn-a MILK THAT COW!!!!!!

MOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[picchick]

Ok ready? Go.

1) Deep Breaths Maggie Deep Breaths.
2)Bowling is fun. Believe me. I stink worse than you. I bowl the opposite direction. I go to bowl the ball and it ends up flying towards the people rather than the pins. And this was not only in front of the pros next to us but in front of the date I had. So, yeah, talk about embarrassing. I wanted to dive in the ball returner thingy and never come out. But you know that one sign on it that says keep fingers out? I figured it meant your body too.

3) Make something at home and then bring it. Or bring flowers for the family. Or offer to help clean too. Thank you notes are a GOOD thing to do.

All will be good to go. We all get nervous and we all get the shakes. I sometimes think the world is falling on top of me. But then it ends up working out in the end.

What do you think has you so nervous?

Meg

[Maggyie]

[quote name='picchick' date='25 November 2009 - 10:39 PM' timestamp='1259203154' post='2009510']

What do you think has you so nervous?

Meg
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The main thing I think is interacting with his family. At the graduation party my guy really tried to get us together; his parents were sitting talking to his aunts and so we waltzed up and sat there too. And.... silence. Even Dan mentioned it later that he was surprised he had to bring up topics of conversation etc. Thank goodness his grandpa came along and started talking to me. His grandfather studied theology and is very pro-me because I know some theological stuff lol. Then at the end of the night when his mother came to say goodbye (I was standing there talking to Dan and his kid brother) she only said goodbye to her sons and not to me. I think she was going to walk off without saying one word to me but I made a point of saying "and it was nice to meet you, too! You have such wonderful sons!" and she gave me this somewhat hostile look like oh really? Maybe she thought I was sucking up?

I got along fine with his younger brother and I have met the older sister a couple times too but we didn't really hit it off. She is married and always comes in tow with her husband. I don't know why but I can never think of things to say. It wasn't like that with Dan at all - I clicked right away with him and it seemed like there wasn't time enough in the world to say everything I wanted to say to him. I start racking my brains for topics of conversation and I get all flustered, I sound fake or I retreat and just don't say anything and sit there like a bump on a log. The worst is when people talk about other people you don't know.

So I guess mostly I am worried they will be unfriendly to me like they were at the party. I am bad at rejection and if it goes on the whole night I might be in tears at the end of it! Nevertheless since his father specifically invited me maybe they really do want to be nice to me? I just hope I don't get the cold shoulder, I would feel so, so mortified.

Edited November 26, 2009 by Maggie

[Maggyie]

So I totally didn't die! I had a wonderful time! I bowled a huge amount of gutter balls but also two (count them, TWO) strikes and his dad even said I had good form They were sooooo nice to me and I got meet a whole bunch of his family I hadn't met before. It helps to bowl with someone you are in loooooove with. Coo coo coooooo. Thank you everyone for trying to beat some sense into me

[Nihil Obstat]

How was the mom?

[Maggyie]

[quote name='Nihil Obstat' date='29 November 2009 - 01:43 AM' timestamp='1259473425' post='2010957']


How was the mom?
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VERY friendly!!! She was an awesome hostess and made me feel welcome. I am so happy and relieved. The only problem is I think I actually like their family better than my family.... hmmmmmmmmmm

[Nihil Obstat]

[quote name='Maggie' date='28 November 2009 - 11:51 PM' timestamp='1259473898' post='2010964']
VERY friendly!!! She was an awesome hostess and made me feel welcome. I am so happy and relieved. The only problem is I think I actually like their family better than my family.... hmmmmmmmmmm
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So last time was just some sort of misunderstanding?

[Maggyie]

[quote name='Nihil Obstat' date='29 November 2009 - 01:57 AM' timestamp='1259474261' post='2010970']
So last time was just some sort of misunderstanding?
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Dan deigned to inform me that they told him before and after the graduation party that they weren't going to be too talky because they didn't want to overwhelm me on our first meeting with questions and pressure. And he didn't tell me this until x many months later because he "didn't think it was important." Ah, you males are so... interesting.

Edited November 29, 2009 by Maggie

[Nihil Obstat]

Ah, yea, that's something a guy would do.


Surprising though; most moms would be all "geez, you're stupid. She'll think we don't like her or something", then slap him upside the head.

[Maggyie]

Yes if one day I have a son I will smack him about for such things!!!! Smack, smack smack!

[MIKolbe]

how did the bowling part go?

[Sojourner]

[quote name='Maggie' date='29 November 2009 - 12:36 AM' timestamp='1259473007' post='2010954']
So I totally didn't die! I had a wonderful time! I bowled a huge amount of gutter balls but also two (count them, TWO) strikes and his dad even said I had good form They were sooooo nice to me and I got meet a whole bunch of his family I hadn't met before. It helps to bowl with someone you are in loooooove with. Coo coo coooooo. Thank you everyone for trying to beat some sense into me
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I'm glad it went well! It's great that his family was so welcoming.

[quote name='Maggie' date='29 November 2009 - 12:51 AM' timestamp='1259473898' post='2010964']
VERY friendly!!! She was an awesome hostess and made me feel welcome. I am so happy and relieved. The only problem is I think I actually like their family better than my family.... hmmmmmmmmmm
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My husband's family is pretty great too ... but no family is perfect. It's a good sign, though, that you like your guy's family and that they like you. That can make being married a whole lot easier, if things move in that direction.